You might have heard strange words ended with a "-phobia" component.
Basically, a phobia is a fear to have fear. You are more afraid of the response you and your body can give others than on what really could happen.
That is why in Logotherapy they talk about derreflection and paradoxical intention - things I hope I can talk about later on - so that the ones that think they are phobic can stop thinking in themselves and offering their thoughts to other subjects and persons.
Like on a speech: if you think "I’ll say something wrong", "I will sweat", "they will laugh because of what I am saying", think "they have me here, because they wanted", "I can offer them something", "we can relate to each other".
Focus your thought and actions on the others, not on yourself. Communicate: give yourself away!
Labels: communication, fear, Frankl, phobias, reasons
